We all have constraints.  Challenges that hold us back.  Whether these forces are acted upon us or are a product of our mind, they hold us back.  I'm know that I can defeat Balour.  He is definitely stronger than I am and is quick with the sword.  However, he fears what he doesn't know.  His weakness is the mind and I can make use of that.  I can get myself out of this trap and turn it around.  I know that I can.  That's my secret.  That's where all of my constraints fall before me.